sherryeda

What Makes You Love a Person More?

After so many years of a relationship, you are bound to many trials. That is the time that some trials failed both of you to be together for another year. Some overcome those trials and become more strong with their relationship. What makes a relationship overcome all trials? We have different characters in life. Some are kind and some are not. Some are patient and some are not. Some are understanding and some are not. Some love to travel and some don't. Even though both are in love with each other, love can still fail. Both need understanding, cooperation and good communication. Adverse life is sometimes feel by the person who doesn't feel the love from their parents. No one cares for them until they finally find somebody who will love them more. Because of the depression caused when the person was still young, you'll feel that he or she needs you so much. You will tend to love him more because you want him to feel how to be loved. Respect is important to a relationship. Everybody need respect. If your partner doesn't respect you, he or she doesn't know how to respect your family and friends as well. There are instances, a person doesn't respect you at all, but he or she respects your family and friends, both of you need to talk. Love can make you learn. Love can change you from bad to good. In a relationship, it is normal to some misunderstandings and fights, but not to the extent that you both hurt each other physically. It is not healthy for a relationship to have physical fights. If both don't fight physically, and both talk about their problems, love will really grow. We do promise something to our love ones, but sometimes, even though, we don't want to broke our promise, we still, because of good reasons. Maybe, it's fine if we did it once or twice, but too many broken promises will lead to not listening and not believing the person, neither. We must not broke our promises to make your partner love you more. We all need freedom. If somebody would want to take away your freedom and control your life, definitely, you'll never be happy and tend to leave the person. We must not take away ones freedom because that is important in our life. What we are doing makes us happy. Being happy will make your family and friends happy too. Being true to yourself means you are sincere in everything you do. Some show respect and kindness to all because of personal reasons. Maybe, they like somebody and figured it out that if you show kindness to others, the person will like and love you, but the truth is, you are not sincere. After awhile, you will show your real bad attitude. Do you think, the person will love you more? Sincerity counts a lot. Many of us are very thoughtful to the person we love. Even though, being thoughtful is not the primary reason why you'll love the person more, it adds a lot. If somebody needs help, they are present to help and don't expect something in return, that makes you love the person more. If we have our own family, your focus should be on your family and work. It's fine if you go out occasionally, but frequently, definitely not. You will love the person more if the person spends more time with the family rather than his friends. After so many years of relationship, you don't feel unwanted because he doesn't cheat you. He doesn't mingle with other girls. He is focus on his work and family. Friends gatherings are fine, but that is suppose to be, occasionally. Loving a person is priceless. Respect, trust and honesty make both people love each other more.

The night he asked the question, "Will you marry me?" was one of the happiest night of my life. I would have never guessed I would be asked that question from a man who I certainly believe was sent to me from heaven. But ever since that day, My life has never been the same. Everyday I thank God for sending me Someone who loves me for who, and what I am, someone who I can trust, someone who I can just be "Me" around, Someone I love. If it wasnt for him coming into my life when he did, I probably wouldnt be what I am today. He has stood faithfully beside me thru this time, not once giving up on me, and has stood behind every decision I have made, even when I was wrong. Time and time again I ask myself, "Where would I be if it wasnt for him loving me the way he does?" "Where would I be if I didnt have him to correct me when I was wrong, in a loving and caring way?" he is so good to me, and that is why I love him so much. I love him so much that I would give my life for him if I had to, and that is what I believe true love is all about. It's not about Money, Cars, Houses, or what Kind of clothes you wear, but its about comittment, Honor, Respect, and love, and that is exactly what we have for each other, and will until the day that We die. For better or worse, thru sickness and death I will be there for him, for as long as I may live. I believe love can bring someone a long way, and that is exactly what it has done to us. We have been thru some really good times, and then we have been thru some bad times but thru it all, our love has remained the same, and will always be there for each other.

I LOVE YOU BABE ALWAYS AND FOREVER!

The night he asked the question, "Will you marry me?" was one of the happiest night of my life. I would have never guessed I would be asked that question from a man who I certainly believe was sent to me from heaven. But ever since that day, My life has never been the same. Everyday I thank God for sending me Someone who loves me for who, and what I am, someone who I can trust, someone who I can just be "Me" around, Someone I love. If it wasnt for him coming into my life when he did, I probably wouldnt be what I am today. He has stood faithfully beside me thru this time, not once giving up on me, and has stood behind every decision I have made, even when I was wrong. Time and time again I ask myself, "Where would I be if it wasnt for him loving me the way he does?" "Where would I be if I didnt have him to correct me when I was wrong, in a loving and caring way?" he is so good to me, and that is why I love him so much. I love him so much that I would give my life for him if I had to, and that is what I believe true love is all about. It's not about Money, Cars, Houses, or what Kind of clothes you wear, but its about comittment, Honor, Respect, and love, and that is exactly what we have for each other, and will until the day that We die. For better or worse, thru sickness and death I will be there for him, for as long as I may live. I believe love can bring someone a long way, and that is exactly what it has done to us. We have been thru some really good times, and then we have been thru some bad times but thru it all, our love has remained the same, and will always be there for each other.

I LOVE YOU BABE ALWAYS AND FOREVER!

His Last Goodbye!!!

hello. you're in the states nah? :)
the baby has grown up na. u were always stronger than
me. i'm so proud of you. despite what you went
through, u made it nevertheless. lyk i said, i'm so
very very proud of you. very very proud.

she i never had the chance to say goodbye so i guess
i'll have to make do with this one. my family knew
before i did dat u were leaving na. well, you really
did love them in pretty much the same way they love
you.

you have a new bf? hehe, i guess i know who the lucky
guy is. i'm so happy for you both. i guess i have an
idea of who he is and i'm pretty sure he will love you
too. she, u two are lucky to have found each other.
cherish him, love him, take care of him cuz he
definitely deserves it. i haven't talked to him
yet(and i dont think i ever will) but based on wat
i've heard, i know that he will take good care of you.
love him she.

sherry eda rubi yu deserves all the happiness she can
get. smile sab ha? di panagsa but pirmi. i have no
doubt that your new bf is up to the job. You will be
loved.

nothing lasts forever and our relationship ended the
way it did. maybe we we're meant for other people and
God (yes i do believe in Him now) had someone else in
mind for each of us. i did break your heart and for
that i'm so sori. i admit i still miss you but u
deserve sum1 better and i guess u've found him. i'm
not lying when i say that i'm so happy for you both.

how's your mom? pls tell her i also miss her. i hope
she's doing fine. and dindin? we'll we were really
never that fond of each other but i do hope she will
be fine. your kuya sean? i guess he's ok. your lola?
kiss ka niya before ka larga? hehe luv baya jud ka
lola nimo.

you may already know this but let me just say that yes
imo friend ako gf karon. si bambam. we'll dun wori,
she luvs me and i wont break her heart. i guess i will
be fine too. i luv her but not as much as i luvd you
before. we had something very very special. but God is
God and i know he will bring us to where we really
belong. so here we are, where we may belong: you in
his arms and me in hers. i pray that you love him more
than u ever did love me. i'm not as selfish as you may
take me to be. i've somewhat changed a bit, not much
but atleast i've changed diba? hehe.

kbaw ka, tiguwang na ta. pila nalang ka years naa na
cguro ta mga family and we will love them more than we
ever loved each other. look forward to that. look
forward to your success. look forward to all the
loving your man will give you. look forward to all the
loving your future children will give you. look
forward to the good things in life and you will be
happy. as the saying goes :" wat makes today more
important than yesterday is tomorrow."

we will miss you on ur birthday. we will miss this
christmas. we will miss you inig sinulog. i will miss
you on my birthday. i will miss you on my graduation.
but dont worry she, God has better things in store for
you there. be happy ms sherry yu. please be.

im still on my way to recovery but unlike before, i'm
happier now. i no longer look back in anger. but
should u still feel that way, i still hope that sumhow
it changes into sumthing milder. i will miss you. we
will miss you. and why? cuz we love you.

don't reply nalang. i'm not even sure if you will read
this message. but if u did, i hope it makes u feel
better sumhow. kung nakabasa ka, dont reply nalang
para ka move on pud ko. hehe dont reply. luv baya nako
bam bam but maka think lang ko sa ato before. so pls
help me too sherry ok? thanks...lets move on.

well this part is for your new bf should u want to
tell him : "bay, taronga sherry ha? di raba na sya
gusto e take for granted sya. bay, ay pagtoo abi uyab
namo mana ang courtship. dont change. i know you're a
nice person and your better than me. i admit that much
and knowing wat kind of person you are makes me feel
happy for her. You have a blessing there with you.
don't waste it. just don't. she will make you happy
and should she make you cry, i know its out of love
and happiness. take care of her."

so here it is she. here is my gudbye. thank you for
your love. take care. be happy. though i may not love
you in the way i loved u before forever, u will be
remembered as long as i live. i will never forget you.

- Niño Emphasis

Sweet Revenge

How to get him out of your head after he dumps you

Being dumped is one of the worst feelings on earth. The worst part is knowing that while your ex is off living a fabulous life, you can't stop thinking about him. Here are our top three ways for getting your ex out of your head and getting sweet revenge.

Let Go
Letting go of love is the hardest part of being dumped. While your ex has been letting go of you in preparation for the breakup, you're still as attached as ever. So when he suddenly pulls the rug out of from under you, you're not necessarily ready to let go of your life together.

In the beginning, it's natural to cling to whatever souvenirs you have left of your relationship. You may find yourself eating at her favorite restaurant, sleeping in his old t-shirt or re-watching the movie you saw on your first date together. You do these things because you want to feel close the person you miss so much.

But whether you want to or not, eventually you have to put distance where there was once closeness. Bit by bit, you must begin to let go of the tiny pieces of your relationship. As you let go of your life with your ex, embrace the new life in front of you: the amazing life that is yours and yours alone.

Love Again
Your first impulse after a breakup may be to move on in the arms of someone else. Not only will it ease your loneliness, you're sure it will make you feel wanted again after the sting of rejection. And most of all, the idea of you and another love will infuriate your ex with jealousy.

But as exciting as vengeance between the sheets may seem, having a one-night stand might not end up hurting anyone but you. The morning after, you could end up feeling even more lonely and insecure than before the tryst.

While rebounding with a perfect stranger sounds like a delicious way to get even, real revenge is moving on in a meaningful way. Open your heart to all kinds of people - not just potential lovers. Be kind to friends and family, reach out to neighbors in need, and learn to love yourself in a more profound way. Once you've brought more universal love into your life, you can move on and begin to look for the right partner to share romantic love.

Live Well
Some people say that the best revenge is living well. They're right. The only way to get your ex out of your life is to fill your life with so many other wonderful things there's no room for him anymore!

Being dumped often leaves you feeling helpless and out of control. But you can take back the power over your own destiny by channeling your pain and anger into positive energy. Use this time as an opportunity to grow, to change and to become the best version of yourself you can possibly be.

Spend time with friends you're usually too busy for. Study something you've always want to learn about. Take up a new hobby. Get into shape. Go on vacation.

Not only will your new life distract you from the pain of your breakup, it will leave you happier and healthier than you were with your ex. And really, what's sweeter revenge than that?

The Good and Bad of Long Distance Love

Love is such a powerful thing, it can convince you that there's a way to "be" with someone without actually being in the same place as them. If you're considering such a relationship, take a long, hard look at the good and bad aspects of long-distance love.

Good: Absence makes the heart grow fonder
Bad: Absence makes the libido wander

It's the oldest cliché in the book: the more time you spend apart, the more you'll miss and appreciate each other. To a certain extent it's true. Being separated from the person you love really does make you realize how much you like being around him.

But the dark side of that is the loneliness that comes with it. As strange as it may seem, a lot of people use missing their partners as an excuse to find physical comfort in the arms of someone else.

If you want to make a go of long-distance love, you have to honestly evaluate whether it's a reasonable expectation for you and your partner to stay faithful. If you both want to stay monogamous, you must both really commit to it. That also means you'll promise to communicate the need for other sexual relationships if things change over the long-distance period.

Good: Your life is all your own
Bad: Your life is all alone

In some ways, being in a long-distance relationship is perfect for the independent spirit. You get the security of being in love without having to really share your life. You're on your own to make decisions about everything from what to eat for dinner to where to live.

But in some ways, being in a long-distance relationship is the worst of both worlds. You don't enjoy the benefits of being single, yet you don't get any of the perks of being coupled. You can't experience the excitement of going out and flirting with new people, yet you don't have the comfort of cuddling up with the same person every night.

In order to make your long-distance relationship work, you've got carve out separate lives. Just because your honey's not around doesn't mean you can't have fun. Don't just wait by the phone -- go out with friends or treat yourself to a solo date. Long-distance love will work only if it's one element of an otherwise full, happy life.

Good: You want a future together
Bad: You want a present together

If you decide you're up for the challenge of long-distance love, it's only because you care for your partner and don't want to risk losing him. You're clearly committed to making the relationship work for the long-term because you want a future together.

But if you love your partner that much, you probably want more than a future -- you want a present together! Love is about big things like feelings and commitment, but it's also about little things, like sharing meals and cuddling on the couch.

If you decide to try a long-distance relationship, know you'll be giving those things up. But if the possibility of a future together is enough to make you happy, long-distance love just might be worth the sacrifice... only you can tell.

The Five Biggest Lies Men Tell And Why

One of the biggest complaints women have about men is that they lie. As women, we tend to let men get away with dishonesty because we so desperately want to believe in them. But you can have a happier, healthier love life by paying attention to the lies your man may be telling you and holding him accountable. Here are the top five biggest lies men tell - and why they tell them.

She's just a friend
Is there a strange woman answering his phone? Sleeping on his couch? Spending late nights with him? She probably is a "friend"…but one who he also occasionally sleeps with. Men tell this lie because they want to get the most they possibly can out of all the women in their lives. The "friend" is not good enough to be a girlfriend…but he doesn't want to end things with her completely in case things don't work out with you.

I'm ready to settle down
There are two reasons men who are actually not ready to settle down say they are. One is that they think you want to hear it. They assume women are only interested in men looking for a wife and babies, so they say whatever they think will help get them laid. The other reason men say they want to settle down is because they genuinely believe they want to settle down… until they are in the position to actually make the commitment. Then they may suddenly decide it's not what they wanted after all.

It's not you, it's me
Sometimes it really is you. Men aren't as accomplished as women at the fine art of polite conflict resolution. Where a woman might feel comfortable telling a man she's not interested, men are much more afraid of direct communication. When he says, "It's not you, it's me," he's really saying "I'm just not that into you." Take it for what it is and move on.

It was a one-time thing
When men are exposed as cheaters, the first excuse they offer is that is was a "one-time thing." In reality, cheating is usually a pattern of behavior that is rooted in much more than a one-time lapse of judgment. If your man cheats and swears it will never happen again, don't just take him at his word. You just can't trust that he'll be honest about something he's already lied to you about.

I'd never lie to you
Even the "good" guys (and "good" girls), stretch the truth sometimes. Whether it's his answer to "Do these jeans make my butt look big?" or his praise for your mother's meatloaf, chances are, he's told you more than a few white lies. Most of these fudges of truth are meant to protect your feelings and don't necessarily reflect his commitment to an honest, open relationship.

There may be a problem, though, if your man continually asserts how honest he is. If he frequently makes a big deal of assuring you that he'd never lie to you, it may be a sign that he's overcompensating for dishonesty.

Other lies to watch out for:

I'll call you
When a man says "I'll call you," we tend to think he means he'll call within the next few days. But for a man, "I'll call you," just means that he'll talk to you again sometime before he dies.

I just got tested
"Trust me" isn't good enough for your body. If sexual health is important enough for him to "get tested," it's also important enough for him to use a condom anyway.

It's complicated
It's not complicated: he has a girlfriend but wants to sleep with you, too.

I'm not really into porn / strippers / bachelor parties / Paris Hilton
Most women think their man is not that into this kind of thing. Yet the sex industry makes millions every day. You do the math.

Let's talk about it later
He's really saying, "Let's end this conversation and never talk about it again."

Now before you go getting up at arms, there are always exceptions to these guidelines, and we women are far from perfect ourselves. But if your guy is uttering any of these common fibs (or fables, since some little white lies can turn very, very dark), it's a call to attention. And that's what you've got to do when you suspect something: consider yourself warned.

10 Things Men Want in a Woman

When men talk candidly about women, they sound… well, they sound a little like us. Sex may have laid a hefty claim on the male brain, but it doesn't seem to be relevant when it comes to what he's really looking for in a partner, which is just that -- a partner. According to them, men want a counterpart they respect, a cohort who shares their interests and a confidant they can talk to. They want women to be happy with who they are and comfortable getting what they want. So listen up. Men just may be a little simpler (and more complex) than you thought.

According to the boys, men want a girl who:

Knows what she wants
Confidence is still the name of the game. Many men listed trying to hard to please others (including them) as a turn-off. Instead, women who know what they want (and aren't afraid to ask for it) were described as attractive, sexy and desirable.

Makes me laugh
A sense of humor is as important to men as it is to women. After all, a relationship without its fair share of laughter gets old pretty quickly, if it gets started at all. Lighthearted, witty or utterly ridiculous doesn't seem to matter, as long as you get each other's jokes and aren't afraid to throw dignity to the wind and get silly sometimes.

Takes care of herself
Yes, looks made the list. But no one cited "beauty" or "great legs" among his criteria. Instead, it seems that looking "put together" is essential. Men admitted that they want a woman to "put time into her appearance" and be generally neat and organized while avoiding the "high maintenance" category.

Shares my interests
If you can't agree on what to do together, it gets complicated to be together. It is important to guys that their girls have common interests (or be open to them). Whether they're into rock climbing or old movies, they'd much rather have you along. And even if it's not your thing, simply being curious and open-minded about their work and hobbies can be enough to satisfy their need to be understood.

Surprises me
It's actually not much of a surprise; spontaneity ranked high as a very desirable trait in a woman, though the quality earned varying definitions. For some it was the inclination to make spur-of-the-moment decisions or having a generally "adventuresome" personality. For others it was enough that a woman thought differently than they did and had the ability to surprise them with her outlook, her suggestions or her actions.

Impresses me
Many women get the message that men are threatened or turned off by intelligent, powerful women, but according to the source, that's pure fiction. Guys want someone they can respect. They cited intelligence as a highly desirable quality; quite a few admitted that they preferred a woman who is more intelligent than they are. Strong really is beautiful, so put your best self forward.

Doesn't care what I think
It's not always what they say to our faces, but guys claim to respect a woman who does her own thing, even when it isn't aligned with what he wants. Independence is strong and attractive, and it's a plus when he knows you're autonomous enough to be on your own and have a good time without him.

Tells it straight
Guys don't want to have to play games or guess what a woman wants, so they're drawn to honesty, sincerity and the ability to communicate clearly. If you're straightforward about how you feel and what you want, he can react to you rather than waste time trying to gauge what's really going on. Men aren't exactly pros when it comes to reading our minds, and they know it. Being upfront about how you feel can make it a little easier on everyone.

Cares about me
They didn't seem as concerned with being the sun to her earth as they were interested in women who are genuinely compassionate. While a girl who is the center of her own universe might be intriguing in the beginning, it gets old fast, and men want to be treated with kindness and respect as much as women do. They also notice how we act when it's not about them: back-stabbing and cattiness score high as major turn-offs.

Confuses me
Don't ever feel that you're beholden to one version of yourself or that he'll lose interest if you reveal your "dark" side. Men are strangely drawn to contradictions, and the polarities of your personality are what make you uniquely you. Let yourself be bookish and passionate, conservative but spontaneous, lighthearted and intellectual -- those warring contradictions that can make you crazy can also make you mysterious and continually surprising.

HE LIED

I was only 16 when we met. I was still young and innocent. He was the kind of guy that I had always wanted - so caring, gentle, sweet, understanding, and everything. He was my first boyfriend. He promised he would give me everything I wanted and all I needed to do was to love and listen to all his needs. I thought that wasn't that difficult to do because I thought, at that time, I loved him. He promised to be with me till the rest of my life and would never hurt me. Hurting me was the last thing on his mind. He said he loved me with all his heart! He made me believe I was very lucky to have him! At first, things were fine between us. We were so into each other. I thought I really had found the man of my life. All of my friends also thought he was the one for me. Evrybody was happy for me. He was all I could think about - every day and night. Gradually, things started to turn bad. He began to tell me what to do and what not to do. I let him the first few times because I believed in 'giving in'. Then, things started to get a little out of control. He didn't want me to go out with my cousins and friends, talk to my friends on the phone, etc. I still didn't see what was wrong because I was so in love. He made me believe that he cared. He said he didn't want me to get into an accident or some other troubles when I was on my way to meet my cousins or friends. I believed him! My friends had been telling to break up with him because he started to control my life. I didn't listen to my friends and we drifted apart slowly. I still didn't see what was wrong. Our relationship had gone from bad to worse. I had to lie to him just to go out with my friends.I hated having to lie to him all the time but there was no way I could tell him the truths. He found out a few times and threatened to break up but we always made up. I was always the one apologizing and crying and begging for chances. I could no longer turn to my friends when I was upset because of my boyfriend.I had to cry myself to sleep every night.Then, he started putting the idea of making love into my head. I was a virgin and he knew how big a thing virginity was to me. He said he wanted to sleep with me because that was the only way he would know how much I loved him. Besides, he said he wanted me so badly that he didn't know how to describe it in words and the only way to show it was to give me the satisfaction I needed - in bed. He also said making love could improve our relationship and bring the two of us together even closer. I was very stupid to believe him. I slept with him. He made me see that he was all I needed. I was scared to be with him and yet scared to break up with him. I cried every waking day. Finally, I thought I had had enough! I called up my best friend and asked him out. He refused, at first, because he knew how my boyfriend was like. But I reminded him that if he wanted to help me, this was the right time! I was all prepared to break up. He agreed! So we met up and had so much fun. Then he called my cell and started screaming at me. I was so scared! I was crying! We broke up. I was glad my best friend was with me. He hadn't changed despite of all the things I had done to him. I ditched him for my boyfriend and that was the biggest mistake I had ever made. Until this day, I still think of my boyfriend once in a while. But I don't know if I miss him. Part of me misses the gentle side of him and the other part of me is still haunted by his cruel action. We were together for 5 years. I am glad it finally ended. I am glad my best friend is still my best friend.

If Only He Would Listen...

Tonight is one of the worst nights of my entire life, i lost my boyfriend ,, i never thought this day will ever come , i never thought i am going to wake up one morning knowing that it is over between me and the only guy i love and adore ,,
But i didnt deserve this break up , i have been faithful to him from the day i met him and i will be always this way , i gave him and i am still willing to give him all the pure love and care and everything he needs or asks for with an open heart and arms .
He used to tell me that we will always be together for the rest of our lives , he used to tell me that things will never change between us as long as we are alive , he used to tell me how much he wants to spend the rest of his life with me , and i used to feel the same way with him in everything he said to me ,, and tonight , he blames me for something i have not done , he blames me for betraying him , he blames me that i am in a relationship with another guy , and of course nothing will change his mind , because he lost his faith in me , i tried all the ways to tell him that it is not true , and that he is the only guy i love , he is the only guy that my tongue says his name ,and my eyes see ,and the only guy that my ears hear his sweet lovely voice , he is the only one that my heart beats in a different way,, but nothing will make him believe that i am honest with him , and he will never trust me again, i confess to him that my mind is thinking about him and only him all the time ...
but after all these confesses ,, i believe nothing will change, but i also believe that it is not going to change the way i feel towards him , the endless strong and pure love , the powerful and trustful love , which i thought nothing could break us up, but as they say,, not everything you think that is right ,is right !!!
i wish i could have a chance to explain everything to him , and to tell him that i am not like what he thinks , but i guess destiny put us apart , and our love is lost ...

July 24th of 2005

Someone I Called Mine . . .

Loneliness has always been a part of my emotion. I have a fear of growing old without someone to watch over me. I don't want to be by myself for the rest of my life. So, I always believe that someday I'm going to find my prince charming that will erase all my fears. I told myself that I should always believe in the magic of love.

I always long to have someone that can accompany when I eat or when I like to watch a movie. I have always thought that every guy I meet would be the possible someone. I have fallen in to a trap of being in love to finally get that someone. I felt I was in need of finding someone that can truly love me for who I am. My mind always thought that I found that someone but my heart never did. I got tired of wishing to meet that someone for me. I had a hard time to distinguish the true meaning of love from infatuation. I learned not to trust men. I stop loving.

Just when I stop, I came across with someone I never imagine I can truly know. Someone came along and changed my whole life. He is someone who made me believe that true love exists. He is someone who accepted me beyond doubt. He is someone who continuously fulfills my dreams. He is someone who always goes out of his way to make me feel happy and secured. He is someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. He is someone I faithfully love. He is someone whom I am happily married with. Someone I called mine.